a late post...

I wrote this blog a couple days ago, but I had a tot of editing to do. I really shouldn't try to write half-asleep! Anyways, here it is.
I rarely watch much TV anymore except a little news and some mystery-dramas (CSI, NCIS, etc). But today I caught myself watching Dr. Phil because he was talking about girl bullying.
As a woman who grew up being bullied as a child, I understand completely and I applaud him for doing this show. I was pushed, tripped, had gum thrown in my hair, and even punched in the gut once. I was called ugly, trash, and even a ... I can't even type it (think a derogatory WW2 "n"-word) when I was young. I was told I was a nobody, going to grow up to be a nobody just like my mom... You name it I heard it. I had my books stolen my freshman year, I had an art project and shop project destroyed my 8th grade year, and several times kids tried to shove me in my locker to the point I went several years without using my locker at all or just barely even though they never succeeded. I even took verbal abuse in class when I was called out for my grandma's funeral (to her credit, as I left, that teacher lectured the whole entire class in my defense).
I don't bring this up to cause a pity party, just the opposite. This is one of those things Mr. Cat has just been a Godsend about. I was still dealing with a lot of the after effects of it when we got together. Many people (once in a blue moon myself included) will tell people to relax and not to let words hurt so bad - and that's what you have to do, but that's way too simplistic! You have to come to a point within yourself where you realize that it's just not true and they can kiss your rear end! I know it's way easier said than done. It took Mr. Cat a VERY long time to start undoing all the damage. But most importantly, you have to find it within yourself to want to move on.
I do have to disagree though with Dr. Phil on one part. While undoubtedly some bullies are only bullies because they're hanging out with a particular group who are bullies and really don't mean or believe what they're saying. But on the whole, bullies aren't bullies just to fit in. They are bullies to the core - mean kids who are pampered way too much and catered to entirely too much at home. They feed off of making other people hurt.
And as Mr. Cat says, anyone that tells you different, that tells you that you ain't worth a sht, blah blah blah, well you know what? (Watch out, cursing ahead!) FUCK YOU!
HA! Take THAT bullies!
Peace!